So what is slut shaming? Well, here’s something I pinched
from Wikipedia, source of all 100% accurate information about pretty much
anything. ‘Slut shaming (also
hyphenated, as slut-shaming) is a
concept in sexuality. It is a neologism used
to describe the act of making any person feel guilty or inferior for certain sexual behaviours or
desires that deviate from traditional or orthodox gender expectations, or that
which may be considered to be contrary to natural or religious law.’
So in other words, when a girl
is more sexually active than average, she gets tarnished with the horrid and
disgusting word that is ‘slut’. What is a slut? Most people just call a girl a
slut because she’s maybe prone to having one night stands, or wears provocative
clothing or speaks in an open and crude manner. My mum often calls me a slut; I’d
say she’s called me a slut every week of my life since the age of 11. Of
course, my mum still uses the word ‘slut’ in the old fashioned way. A slut used
to mean a messy and untidy girl. So by definition, I’m a massive slut. But by
modern definition, am I slut? I don’t believe I am but chances are; I’ve been
called one.
Slut shaming has only really
recently become recognised as a ‘thing’ although it’s been around forever. Let’s
take Marylyn Monroe for example, people are still slut shaming her now and the
poor woman is dead! What right do any of us have to label somebodies sexual
behaviour? I mean, some people like sex, so will act upon this by having lots
of sex. Why is this wrong? If no one is getting hurt, why should this person be
burnt at the stake? Are we going to start shoving pitchforks up girl’s vaginas
if they don’t ‘behave’? How far is this silly shit going to go?
‘…you all have got to stop
calling each other sluts and whores. It just makes it ok for guys to call you
sluts and whores.’ This quote has resonated in my mind since the moment
I heard it. One, because it was said by Tina Fey and I love her so much I could
stroke her hair for hours and two, because it’s bloody true! We should be on each
other’s side, not battling it out against each other. I’ve got friends that
boys have called ‘sluts’ and I’ve stuck up for them. Why? Because they don’t really
sleep around? Because they’ve not slept with that many people? NO, they’ve
slept with loads of bloody people but the point is I don’t fucking care and
this does by no means make them a ‘slut’ it makes them a sexual deviant whom I
love. Men calling girls sluts is bad enough, but women doing it is fucking
silly. Why are fighting over the stuff that men are high fiving over?
Are we threatened by these
‘sluts’? Do we think they’re going to steal all the men and eat their dicks for
breakfast? What is it that we’re all so afraid of that makes us act in this
tactless manor. Not every girl that sleeps around will sleep with someone’s
boyfriend. So maybe she seeks validation, I think looking at the internet
today, it’s fair to say we’re all seeking validation. Or maybe, shock horror,
she just enjoys having sex? Instead of putting girls down and making them feel
shit for their sexual behaviours, let’s just embrace the fact that we’re living
in a society that’s more sexually honest and open that it has ever been. Isn’t
that kinda empowering?
Let’s all agree to stop
bitching on about how many guys a girls slept with, what she did in the back of
that van, what she wore to that party and start high fiving each other for
being sex goddess’ and rulers of the world.
